Shriners Children’s Shares Back-To-School Self-Esteem Tips for Kids with Physical Differences

As families gear up for the upcoming school year, Shriners Children’s staff is encouraging parents to focus on more than just school supplies and clothes. For children with physical differences or burn injuries, the return to school can be especially daunting.

“It’s natural for kids, especially in public places like schools, to accidentally stare when they see something unfamiliar,” said Shriners Children’s registered nurse Emily Burke. “Most of the time, that’s just simple curiosity and isn’t meant to be hurtful. Teaching your child a calm, confident response like, ‘I got hurt, but I’m doing great now,’ can go a long way. It’s also important to talk openly with your child about their body and any changes after an injury. Avoiding the topic might make them feel like their scars or differences are something to hide.”

Child life specialist Sarah O’Neal also advises parents to remember that the first day of school can create a lot of anxiety for kids, which they might express in a variety of ways. Staying patient and helping them feel prepared can make a big difference. She advised that it’s also important to empower kids to feel in control of how much they share about their differences.

“Kids are bound to get questions, and it’s important that they know they’re in control of what they choose to share,” said O’Neal. “Although they should be empowered to share as much or as little as they choose, giving a simple explanation or answer can mitigate many questions, staring or bullying. It’s also important to keep showing up, even if it’s challenging or scary at first. Confidence comes from small, consistent acts of bravery, like walking through the school doors even when it’s hard. Over time, those moments can build resilience and pride for kids with differences.”

Shriners Children’s Back-to-School Tips

• Start the Conversation Early: Talk openly with your child about their physical differences and/or changes following an injury.
• Role Play Common Scenarios: Practice how to respond to questions or stares in a calm and confident way.
• Empower Choice: Reinforce that it’s up to your child to decide how much to share.
• Create a Routine: Establish back-to-school habits a few weeks ahead of time to ease transitions.
• Collaborate with Educators: Contact teachers or school counselors early with any accommodations or concerns.
• Focus on Strengths: Encourage activities that build your child’s confidence and celebrate their talents.